Would you go in your husband's place
Hi everyone! I'm looking for some advice. I have not really posted much on here, at least about my husband in a few years. I used to post more often because I was really stressed. Me and my husband share a daughter together. I got pregnant as a teen and my parents kicked me out. So me and my husband got married at 17 but were not allowed to live together. His family (step family) sent me with his other family members to raise the baby and he stayed and worked on the farm and we really only got to see each other once a month. It was like that for 3 years and I had no idea in that time that his step brother was severely abusing him. He did some of the most disgusting things you could do to a person. My husband was severely sexually abused by his step brother and his brother would just torture him. He has a prosthetic eye because his step brother stabbed him in the eye. His step brother stabbed a screw through his foot and the whole family knew he was doing this and didn't do anything. One of the worst things his step brother did that he still has to this day is he branded his initials into my husband's leg/thigh. He was a psychopath. And he went to prison.
My husband struggled a lot with depression and suicidal thoughts along with PTSD. My daughter has some trauma from witnessing her dad try to hurt himself. My husband was in and out of mental health hospitals so I was the only one working. We didn't have sex for 4 years. And I didn't even notice because I was emotionally drained. People would bully my daughter and say her dad is crazy because everyone in town knew he was constantly trying to kill himself.
We are in a better place now. My daughter is in therapy. My husband attends therapy on a regular basis. He works at a school at the moment and loves his job. He finally seems to have overcome his trauma. But his step brother is trying to get paroled. He's going to meet with the parole board and is pulling the stupid I found Jesus shit that people do when they want to get out of prison. And I may piss off some people but if you do fucked up shit like that whether or not you found Jesus in prison is irrelevant. If you truly are saved and sorry then one he would say that which he hasn't and 2 you'll take responsibility and serve your time in prison instead of trying to shortcut it. He is a monster and he needs to stay there. Victims are allowed to attend parole hearing but my husband doesn't want to because he can't handle seeing his face. He worked so hard to not have to see that mans face every time he closes his eyes. I found out that victims close families are also allowed to attend in the victims place and I'm thinking about doing it for my husband. But hearing he's trying to get paroled at all breaks my husband and has messed with his mood. I'm wondering if I shouldn't bring this up anymore or still make the suggestion that I go.
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