Postpartum

Hi! I am 8 month postpartum and I do not like when people hold my baby, and I have a hard time saying no because I’m a people pleaser, I feel guilty I don’t say no and I get overwhelmed in the moment along with wanting to be super mean to the person holding her, or I just want to rip her out of people arms. I am going to therapy for this ( still in the process) this whole situation is eating me up, how do yall say no without because so straight up? Or maybe that’s what I need to do, legit I walk in a room and somebody will be like let me hold her. And of course I give her up and it makes me feel *** at the end