How many times a month did you have sex when trying to conceive ?

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Me and my husband want to have kids, but he has always had an extremely low sex drive all his life. ￼ It’s very difficult to get him interested in sex more than once every few months. He just has zero interest￼. ￼ I know he’s not cheating. He’s just a huge gamer and for him he gets more pleasure out of video games than sex even if I do all the work. ￼ I have to schedule it days or weeks ahead of time and then get blown off for a couple days because he is too tired or not in the mood before it finally happens, so it’s very difficult to time. Even if I try to schedule it when I’m ovulating, being told he’s too tired and just wants to relax for several nights in a row ends up with it happening when my egg is already saying bye and peace out. How many times did you have sex a month when trying for a baby, and how old were you and how long did it take? I am 30 years old. ￼ I haven’t been on birth control for almost 7 years and use no form of protection but still have no kids because the actual act is only once every few months and so spread apart. What are my chances of having kids soon if I can get it to once a month? ￼￼My cycle has also been switching between 28 days which is what it was my entire fertile life, and 35 days, but becoming 35 days almost every month now. ￼ is it normal for your cycle to become almost 10 days longer once you turn 30 within a year? I feel like the odds are stacking against me. ￼He ￼says he wants kids too, and we planned to have a big family when we got married and he knew when we were dating it was something I was not willing to give up. But now that I’m 30 I’m starting to panic because I can’t afford another seven years at this rate if I want more than one kid. ￼ I know it’s considered infertility if you try for more than one year, ￼ but if you have sex once a month, does it still qualify as infertility if you aren’t pregnant after a year? Or is there a certain amount of times you’re supposed to be having sex a month to be clinically “trying” for a baby. Yes I miss passion and recreational sex and want nothing more than for this man to pin me down and rip my clothes off and kiss me and dominate instead of it being a chore for him even though I’m on top, but even when I’m not ovulating he has no drive for it so I’m scrapping the bottom of the barrel intimacy wise just for a scrap at a chance for the family we both planned for :( ￼

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It only takes one time. Honestly we never put a focus on it. Whenever we felt like it we did it. 2 maybe 3 times in a good week.

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it only took 1 time of sex 4 me to get pregnant with my 1st & 3rd babies lol

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3 times. The day of our positive OPK and the next 2 days….i got pregnant 5 times this way.

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The day before ovulation and that was all it took this time 🌈🫶🏻

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We would start having sex every other day right before my fertile window but both times I got pregnant were cycles when we only did it once.

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Pretty much every day or every other day for my first. My second was a total fluke and my husband and I both were between trips so we did it the one night we were home which just so happened to line up with my ovulation and BOOM.

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We did every other day (most fertility clinics advise this) from the end of your period to ovulation and a day past. 
Your husband needs to see a doctor for his low libido. Could be low testosterone and that could have an impact on how his swimmers are. Also he needs to get his priorities straight and put you first before that gaming crap. My husband started almost ignoring me with the gaming and I made it a point no more. Needless to say he doesn’t play much now, and actually spends time with me. Stand up for you and your marriage.

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Multiple times. I was 37 when I got pregnant with my first. Took two yrs.

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Hiya i was trying for 9 years, between age 21 to 30. I every month did the ovulation tests and me and partner had sex loads through month. And then towards end i was so depressed, the momth we conceived we had sex once, 5 days after my positive ovualtion test. So i thought it was not the month. My second pregnnacy ( this time) we had sex twice.

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We didn’t plan anything or have set days bc scheduling sec takes all the fun out of it and makes it feel like a chore. We just stopped trying to prevent getting pregnant.