Is it a deal breaker if your bf doesn’t respect your friends?

Today, I missed a call from my bf in the morning while I was at a coffee shop. I called him back within a few minutes, told him I was on my way to my friend’s house for a facial, and explained I didn’t feel my phone vibrate. His response was, “So you have time for that but not for me?” I kindly said I’d call him in 2 hours and reminded him that yesterday he didn’t return my call either. He said I’d called back “too late” (it was literally 10 minutes after he called me).

My friend and I had a length conversation, so my Facial took longer than usual. Later, when I was at Target, he called again. I was in line and told him I’d call back in 10 minutes. When I didn’t immediately (because the line took longer than expected), he texted, “It’s been more than 10 minutes.” He times me. I feel like I can’t breathe.

When I finally did call, he was cold and mean. I explained I spent a little extra time with my friend because she’s going through something traumatic. her son’s father kidnapped their child, and she just won full custody. I brought her coffee and flowers and trying to be there for her. His response was “So she has more value than me?” Then he said, and I quote, “I don’t give a f** about that mother f**er.” (Referring to my friend.)

When I calmly asked him not to speak about my friend that way, he said, “So you’re defending her and not me?” Then told me to never mention her again because “he doesn’t care.” He even said I don’t need friends because he doesn’t have any and that he only needs me, and that should be enough for me too. He said we should only talk about us and that only us matter. So I asked him “so my friends mean nothing to you? So let’s say I had a get together and I invited you to be part of the get together you wouldn’t come?” He said he wouldn’t show up cause he doesn’t need to be around them. Wtfff he doesn’t even know them. He also said my friend should have been more careful who got her pregnant and it’s her fault she is dealing with an abusive bf and knocked her up. So disgusting.

Later, I told him I had to go to a family BBQ. Two hours in, he texts, “Are you done?” and starts calling again. The same thing happened just two days ago: I went to Disneyland for my birthday with my parents and siblings….he called me multiple times even though I told him I was at an amusement park. I had 4 missed calls and texts accusing me of “not prioritizing him.” My parents had gifted me the tickets and it was supposed to be a happy day. But his calls drained the joy out of it.

Also he says I’m “a big dog” what the hell?

He brings money a lot in the picture and I’m not sure what he’s blabbering about. Two days ago he asked for $50 bucks because his bank account was at 0. He said he has 11k but he has it all cash stored in his room because he doesn’t trust the bank. He needed $50 because the gas station did not have change for a $100 bill and he wanted to use Apple Pay so that’s why I transferred him money. He hasn’t paid me back despite the fact he keeps saying he makes a lot of money. I told him today I shouldn’t have ever let him borrow money if he’s treating me this way. He made fun of me still living with my parents. He said I need to be a business man like him if I really want to be successful. At this point I feel like he’s belittling me.. what do you think?