I don't want to have sex with him because of this...

So, I have been talking to this man for 2 years but we argued soooo much in that time. He constantly blew my phone up (ldr). He would call me so much it annoyed the fuck out of me!! I hated it. I really started hating it after he started insulting me. So we finally mess around 3 times only. They honestly all felt forced. Like, I was pressured into it. I did it to shut him up. None the less, when I checked him on something he insulted our sex that he claims was out of spite, because I wouldn't answer his phone call. Then he still expects me to allow him to touch me AGAIN! LIKE NO! He said we can go through couple counseling and thinks that's gonna change him insulting me that way. Like I can't FORGET you said that. Why would I want to be naked around you let alone you touch me. I can't get over it. Am I being petty???