My step-dad of 7 years told me he likes me?!

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I (18F), have been having problems with my step-dad (43M), telling me he likes me. Every time I ask him for money, he asks me to either 1. Give him a HJ or 2. Give him a BJ. BJs will get me “extra money” according to him. He states that he doesn’t see anybody else the way he sees me. This has actually been happening for 5 years now. I feel very disgusted since I’m not attracted to him in any way. I mean, he’s my fucking STEP-DAD!!! Yet I have no choice since I’m in need of the money. He uses that against me. It disgusts me every time I touch him or he touches me. I have to wash out my mouth and wash my body thoroughly every time he touches me. I’m scared.

He actually does come into my room and threaten me not to tell. When we’re with other people or in public, he acts like a normal step-dad. Like we go go-carting and vr gaming. I usually enjoy the times when we’re with others or in public, yet in private, he’s different. 
Update: I decided that I’m going to stay with my most trusted friend (18F as well) for a few weeks. I’m still too scared to tell the authorities and my mom, yet I’m going to try and build up my confidence. Wish me luck!! 🤞🤞
Another update: I got into college a little while back so I’m going to be at college as well as working. Thank you for your kind words!! 🥰🥰

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Where’s your mom? 5 years ago you were 13. You should report this.

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If you want to stay anonymous you can edit your post to update us. Im sorry you are going through this. What he’s doing is not okay and I hope you find your way out soon as it sounds like he is your provider.

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Jesus poor baby! Turn him in sweet girl. Alert the proper authorities he’s scum and need to be put away.

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Sweetie, I know you feel stuck and like you’re desperate. Please, please, please tell your mother about this. And the police. He has been raping you since you were thirteen years old. He’s a pedophile and a rapist. Please get away from this house immediately. Stay with a friend, get a job, get this guy imprisoned. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Please take actions against him. He doesn’t love you, he only wants sexual favors because he’s a pedophile and groomed you.

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Seriously???!!!! THIS IS SEXUAL ABUSE!!! YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO SPEAK UP AND TELL THE COPS. IF YOU HAVE ANY TEXT MESSAGES OF HIM OR PHOTOS. THERES YOUR PROOF TO REPORT HIM. DON'T BE SCARED YOU'RE NOT ALONE! YOU GOT THIS I KNOW ITS HARD BUT U CAN REPORT HIM SINCE YOU ARE A MINOR OR WAS YOU HAVE EVERY RIGHT!

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You need to record the interaction before moving out in case you need it. Just in case no one believes you.

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Please update us on how you are. There are people here who are concerned for your wellbeing.

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Thank you for the update. Moving out is a great first step. Next step should be therapy. If you are headed to college you should be able to get low cost counseling there. Look into that. College offers mental health resources. Use them to the fullest capacity. Never forget no matter what anyone says this is not and never was under your control. This is 100% abuse and you are not to blame in any way. At the age that this began you were unable to give consent and you got out as soon as you could. Be proud of your resilience and be kind to yourself in your process of healing.

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Thanks for the update! You can do this ❤️ You are 18 now so you can do whatever you want truly. I always advise young people who don’t have a plan yet to go to Job Corps to get free living, food, health and trade schooling but I hear many locations are closed now. Anywho, I wish you the best!

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omg I hope you rlly have the courage to say something. This is not okay he’s been harassing you since you were 13 please talk to the police!!