Would you consider this cheating

The last time my husband talked to his old fling (same girl he physically cheated on his first wife with) was right around the time we first started going on dates.. 6 years ago-ish. Then when we became serious he stopped talking to her, etc.

So husband and I have been having a hard time. We quickly had 3 small babies fast. They are all under 5 years old (had my tubes tied.. no more.). At the same time constant court battles and a lot of drama and agony from his ex wife. This made me really miserable and I would complain to him all the time to handle her (yes it was wrong. Like I said, 3 babies back to back, very stressful, our marriage wasn’t good). But. No matter what, the foundation of our marriage was strong. There was never infidelity and I trusted him WHOLEHEARTEDLY. I would have swore on my life he’d never do ANYTHING.

Fast forward to a couple months ago. I have never checked his phone but something in me told me to that night. We had another bad fight. So I did. I found that he had added his old fling on Snapchat. Didn’t send anything. But just added her. And when you scroll up in the string, you can see a few sexy photos of her and sexy videos of her that were saved from the date she sent them back in the year we started dating. They weren’t sent recent, back in 2015 or whatever it was, but they were still there.

But get this: even though he only added her, it did show that back in june, 2 months after our baby was born and wewere fighting horribly, but I had postpartum depression and really needed his support, that he had added her then too, and then sent her a video of himself looking cute petting a dog. Like trying to get her attention it seemed from what I thought. She never responded. Apparently the next morning after he added her and sent the video he had deleted her. He said he did it because he was unhappy and mad from a fight pretty much.

I reached out to her. She said that she remembers him sending a video back in June 2022 but nothing else and she never responded. She said she remembers him adding and deleting her pretty much. Never started conversation but that he would just pop up here and there.

I’m fucking destroyed. Gutted.

Tell me, do you consider this cheating?

Her sexy pics and videos, the images engraved in my mind. The fact he kept adding her to obviously reach out to her, maybe to look at her pics again. The fact he sent her a video of himself trying to look cute. I mean I am so hurt it’s beyond me. I’m not one to move on easily. Very very very hurt.