Sibling question: what’s your take?

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There’s always talk about how many kids people want to or should have for xyz reasons 
But I have never read a post with takes from sibling standpoint on the matter
For example: some people say having 3+ kids and having a “bigger” family is the best, while others say 0-2 is the best. What I would like to know is from a sibling perspective, what do you think of a certain number of kids in the home? Did you not have any siblings and love or hate it? Did you have too many/too little in general? 
I want to think about it from a kids perspective amongst a bigger group of people than just myself, so does anyone have any input?
Even if you don’t have a number in your mind, would you be willing to explain the benefits & cons of your childhood when it comes to siblings or lack thereof??

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I have 3 siblings. I’m close to one. What I wish more than anything is that my parents had seen me. Had taken time for me. Had been able to focus on me. I live m’y siblings. But I do think that because attention was so spread thin, I missed out on a lot of connection

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I was the youngest of 3. I always wanted a younger sibling. I felt left out a lot because my older siblings were always doing stuff together but I couldn’t always keep up. Their age gap was 2 years, I was 3 years younger than the middle. But we were still really close as siblings. I found out when I was older my parents had wanted another child but my mom had health issues and wasn’t able to have another one after me.

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I have a younger sibbling while my husband is the middle of 3 boys.
I found it difficult to always be the role model. I had to be perfect and my sib got away with so much. It was very stressful. We are very close though. Just over 2 years apart but I love them to bits.
My husband had a really hard time being the middle child. Even now, he struggles to be seen as competent. His family always defaults to the older brother if they have questions about construction etc (henis an electrician). Thing is, they even ask him about furnaces and stuff, which is my husband's profession. He has always felt ignored and like a black sheep.

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I’m an only child, but I had cousins close by, and lots of friends growing up, so I don’t feel like I missed out on too much. I probably got “spoiled” by being an only, but I didn’t have to deal with all the squabbles my cousins dealt with with their siblings.
My husband, on the other hand is the youngest of 5. He was an oops baby that was born 5 years after the last sibling. His three oldest siblings are 7-11 years older than him, and he’s always said he felt left out of everything as a kid. He compensated for the lack of attention from his parents and siblings by acting out and getting into quite a bit of trouble as a teen.
We’re settling on 2 kids. Our lives our so busy that we really can’t devote time to more than 2, and I already have insane mom guilt about my firstborn going to daycare last year at 2 and a half so I could go back to work. With our second baby due any day, I’m terrified that I won’t love her as much as my first, or that they’ll hate each other. But that could just be pregnancy hormones talking 😂

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One sibling is more than enough. Better to be an only child.

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I’m the eldest of 3, we are each separated by 1-2 years and I think that makes a difference to our experience. I believe 2 kids max is a good number because the cost to support and raise a child these days is insane especially if you want to give them a great life with all they need not just the bare minimum in life. I also felt as a child that 3 was too much for my parents to handle and provide the right amount of attention and parenting to, I know the middle child definitely feels that way and it’s also very common for a middle child to feel unseen. On the other hand, if both parents have a super strong relationship, supportive framework of friends and family, dedicated to having a family and have the time, energy and funds then you theoretically should be capable of successfully raising more than 1 or 2 children in my opinion.

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I’m the oldest of 4, right know we are 28, 27, 23, 20 just to see our age gaps. I have more of a bond with 27 and 23 than 20. Mostly due to have to be their babysitter for 23 and 20. I personally wish my parents did not have to many of us due to we did not all get the same opportunities. Yes one of my siblings has autism 23 so we all knew all of there attention goes to them. 
One of the things I hated the most of being the oldest of 4 is having to be the example, having to be a in home babysitter(clean cook care pick up), not having freedom from them and being punished for there mistakes. But that’s just me.

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I have a younger brother, he’s 2.5 years younger than me. I grew up with an alcoholic father & a workaholic mother. Having a sibling to go through that with made things easier & harder.. I was forced to be mature & basically take care of him, because my mom was always working & my dad was too drunk to do anything. It was nice to have someone to play with, hide with, distract ourselves from their issues with. My parents would also constantly fight, so we would just go somewhere together to get away from it. We aren’t close now. We didn’t get much attention from our parents for other obvious reasons, so I’m not sure if having more siblings would’ve effected the attention we got. My brother was/is definitely the favorite lol. Idk imo every family dynamic is different, there are pros and
cons to both small and large families. My SO is the oldest of 3 boys & he was the golden child lol.. still is in his mother’s eyes.. from his perspective he got the least attention because he had the least amount of issues (one of his brothers had a lot of depression/suicidal episodes & the other brother did a lot of drugs) so he was kind of ignored. 
I know a lot of only children who wish they had a sibling to have that special bond with. I’m having my third boy & all I can say is I will do my best to give them all attention & love & hope they enjoy having brother’s to bond & grow with. I think me & my SO both learned from our parents & know to make every child feel seen & not put pressure on the oldest to be responsible or a role model for the younger ones.

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I have 3 living and 1 passed as a baby. I was close with my twin and my father had 2 other children by two more woman. My younger brother is 7 years apart and we aren’t that close but we keep in contact from time to time. I see my other sister on instagram mostly.
I would say having a twin/sibling was the norm so I was use to always having a playmate a food mate a dance mate and trouble mate lol. She was always with me and I never felt lonely and we always was each others body.

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I grew up in a very large family - 8 siblings. While there were definitely times I felt like I didn’t get enough attention from my parents, I wouldn’t trade it for the world. I loved having so many siblings because I got to build very unique and special relationships with each one. My 2 older brothers were my best friends growing up, and a lot of who I am today was influenced by them. I had a very stereotypical “annoyed big sister and annoying little brothers” relationship with the two right below me, but they have honestly grown into some of the most fun people to be around. I have a very unique relationship with the youngest 4, as I’m 9, 12, 17, and 18 years older than them. I am almost like a second mom to them, but I love it. I love being able to be someone they can look up to and talk to about things they don’t feel comfortable telling my parents. Each sibling relationship is so different, but they are all so special. They are genuinely my best friends, and I love knowing I’ll always have them in my life.