Okay I need some advice on how to handle my crazy mother in law. My fiancé and I got engaged a couple months ago and my mother in law has been an absolute monster during the entire wedding planning process.

My parents and my fiancés parents are splitting the cost of the wedding so I knew I had to be a little lenient on my decisions and let our parents in on some of the decisions with the wedding. But she has taken it way too far. My MIL is EXTREMELY opinionated and is used to getting her way. No one ever stands up to her and if they do, she twists it to make herself look like the victim. She’s also highly sensitive and cannot even take a joke someone says about her. I have always bit my tongue because I wanted to keep the peace and don’t think it’s worth it to make fights about a wedding, but she really has taken all my special moments away from me. I’ll give a few examples: Starting with my dress. She invited herself to go wedding dress shopping with me and let’s just say our tastes are completely different. Every dress that I liked she would audibly say “ewww” and made a disgusted face. She often does this with every little thing that i like. Then when I tried on a dress she chose, I didn’t like it but she kept coming up to me saying “no. This is your dress.” And saying “I decided that I’m going to pick your dress for you.” She has never once asked my opinion on ANYTHING. And if I ever do give my input, she says ew. Like so rude!!

We’ll now, she imposed herself to come to my floral appointment, and I decided how I wanted my flowers without her input. We’ll, as she was going to drop off the deposit to my florist, she changed EVERYTHING about the design and won’t tell me what she did!! She keeps saying it’s a “surprise” and I need to just “shut up and trust her.” I don’t even know how to go about this because the florist is a close friend of hers. I had my dream vision for my reception and she just went and completely changed it all. I have bit my tongue for so many aspects of this wedding but she is honestly giving me so much anxiety. My parents are also paying for this wedding and they respected mine and my fiancés decisions, I don’t know why my MIL can’t do the same. I really don’t want to make a fight but I don’t know how much more of this I can take. Any advice?? Am I being unreasonable?? How do I get my reception back without stepping on any toes 😅

I would be fine with her input if it wasn’t about such HUGE and personal aspects of the wedding. Like the dress is supposed to be MY decision and my decision only! I don’t know how she thinks it’s okay to tell me which dress to wear, especially when my parents are paying for the dress! Now the reception? It’s just too much.