Restraining 2 year old to sleep

My 2 year old daughter has been having issues with going to sleep. Tried everything. After my baby daddy took her for a night (first time in almost a year) he gave me the tip to hold her down by wrapping my arms and legs around her let her scream cry it out and eventually she’ll pass out. I told him that I will never do that to her. Two weeks ago I stayed over with him at his new place and new surroundings mess up her sleep schedule so of course she was up. Since I have her every day I decided to let him stay up with her. Woke up to her screaming turn around and caught him holding her down. I freak out on him pulling his arms off of her telling him you don’t do that. He says “I’m just hugging her” so I stayed up with her while he slept. Tonight he’s staying with him at his moms house (I have a lot of conflict and mom gut feelings with her) and I can not rest with her in their care. Is it just me “overreacting” or restraining a toddler to sleep bs.