Anxious about pre-k

My son turned 4 in January. I live in a small town that only had 1 pre-k program which is a Christian school - and not that there’s anything wrong with that, but I am not a religious person, I wasn’t brought up that way, and my kids aren’t being raised that way either. Plus I don’t drive, so unless they have public transportation idk how he could even get there. The elementary school recently just started a free pre-k program but because it’s so new, they are only accepting 20 students. I thought I was getting a good head start on getting the ball rolling with getting my son registered but turns out I have to submit an “interest form” by next Wednesday and that doesn’t even guarantee him a spot. The school will draw names to fill the spots so there’s a chance my son may not even be selected. And then what do I do? Will it then be too late to enroll him else where? And idek where else I could register him. The elementary school is right across the street from my apartment complex so it’s convenient and not at the same time. It’d almost be more convenient if we lived far enough away that my son could take a bus to school because I also have a 2 year old and my fiancé work days so I’m home alone with both kids all morning. So I’m anxious about having to be up really early to get both kids dressed to walk my son to school. And then there’s a chance that we might not even still be in this apartment by the September rolls around because my MILs mother passed away a little over a year ago, so she’s coming into a good chunk of inheritance money and plans to buy a smaller home and sign her current house over to my fiancé and I which would mean my kids will be in a different school district. So I’m worried that if that happens, it may be too late to get him in pre-k in the other school district.

And I feel kind of silly for stressing about it so much, because I know pre-k isn’t a mandatory thing but I feel like most kids go to pre-k. Some even start at age 3. So I already feel like I’ve done my son a disservice by not having him in pre-k sooner, but the pre-k program at the elementary school is specifically only for kids that will be 4 on or before December 1, 2023 so we had to wait anyway because he was not of age to have him already registered.

And I’m also anxious about how he’s going to do in school. The program is M-F, 9:05-3:15 so that’s a busy schedule for a toddler. I know it’s great to have him acclimated to it before he starts kindergarten because that’s going to be the school schedule anyway but my son is a super hyperactive kid. I would not be surprised if at some point down the road he’s diagnosed with ADHD. He’s not a very good listener, I have to repeatedly ask him to do things and then he’ll throw a tantrum about it. He’s not good at sharing either. With other kids he does okay if the kids are monitored, but at least with his sister, everything is mine mine mine and she’s always whining because he won’t let her play with anything. The moment she starts playing with something, he suddenly wants to play with it and takes it from her. And he’s also been picking up cuss words because my fiancé swears around him. Which - whatever. If it’s not my fiancé, it’ll be someone else. He’s going to hear people swear. And personally I don’t want to be a cuss word free house for that very reason. I’d rather my son be familiar with those words and understand that grown ups can say them, but kids can’t. And we’ve been working on it and he is recognizing that. He’ll start to say damn or asshole and then he’ll catch himself and use a different more kid appropriate word like dang or we call each other turkeys or he’ll say biscuits (thank you Bluey) but he does still slip up and I’m worried he’s going to do that in school and I’m going to constantly be getting phone calls about his behavior. He’s not a bad kid, even though he may sound like it by the way I’ve described him, he’s not. He’s really sweet and he’s good when he’s occupied but he does get bored easily so I’m worried that his teacher is going to have a hard time getting him to stay seated and focus. And lastly, my MIL and SIL berated me for letting him get naps beyond 2 years old back before he was even 2 & I actually asked people on here about it and they defended them and said yeah well when he’s in school, they aren’t going to let him nap. But this pre-k program does in fact have a nap time - and here my son hasn’t had a scheduled nap in over 2 years so good luck to that poor teacher trying to get my son down for a nap or to at least lay there quietly.

I don’t really know why I’m sharing this - like I said I think I just wanted to organize my thoughts on it and maybe hear other people’s experiences with pre-k. Did you send your kid to pre-k? Do you plan too? What really is even the point or importance of pre-k in the first place? Genuine question. Cus I know I went to pre-k, but I have no memory of it, and it didn’t make me any smarter than my peers. I was an average student. I didn’t go off to college so I don’t feel like pre-k is going to make or break him but at the same time I do if that makes sense. I’ve tried expressing my anxiety about this to my fiancé but he’s not a worry ward like me so he didn’t really understand why I’m so anxious and I know some of it (or maybe all of it) may be irrational, but this is just how my brain works lol