Any moms in struggling relationships or single moms ?

Meghan

I’m about 19 weeks pregnant and my partner lives in Ireland and I live in Colorado and have my son here . I can’t get him

To tell me when he will be here for me and I’ve been doing the entire pregnancy and my doctors appointments by myself . We FaceTime but lately it’s less and less and I’m getting told I’m “too needy “and “too selfish.” And quite frankly everytime I try to make a list of different plans and ideas for us and our relationship, he ends up hanging up and not giving me any real answers.

I love him and I feel like I’m too old to fall for this stuff and yet I am. He says he will try to take my daughter from me and prove I can’t do it and I’m an u fit mom etc etc and I don’t know where this comes from. I already have to deal with my sons father and really felt like my partner and I could make it work but we got pregnant and I’ve never felt more alone . At the same time , I feel strong some days and like it’s his loss if he can’t have a conversation with me and if he has to result to such petty threats before our daughter is even healthy and born !

I hope I can figure out if it’s over or not so I can continue to grow and move on. I’m planning for any scenario at this point : looking into birth and postpartum doulas and ways to cut my expenses to accommodate hiring help.

I don’t have a family support system but I have been researching 4-6 weekly support groups to attend for both before the pregnancy and after the birth. I just feel extremely hurt and betrayed and sad that my daughter won’t grow up with a traditional family and I wish I could make it work for her sake bc it seems like most of the time it’s because we aren’t physically together but on two opposite time zones and cultures 🤷‍♀️

I really just need some advice or love and guidance.

When I told him I was pregnant he brought a bottle of rum in the car with me in it and when I asked to get out for the safety of my baby and my son at home , and also continued drinking and eventually totaled the car that night and I had to ask a stranger to use their phone and call his mom

And tell her the news since I was in a foreign country with no phone 🤦🏻‍♀️

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COMMENT (2)

As

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I would say count him out all together.But how long were you together? In Ireland or was he living here?

Li

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He’s telling you you’re an unfit mom and he’s taking the baby. I can’t believe you’re even wondering how to fix this. Break up and disengage now, before the baby is born. Cease communication. Let him know when the baby is born, figure out child support however that works across the country. It’s time to stop playing relationships and start being realistic.