What’s your take on being a stay at home mom or a working mom? How often should a working dad spend time with his child?

Just wondering others take on the subject because I ask currently a sahm and my boyfriend works 8 hours a day/ 5 days a week cutting grass and he spends no time with our daughter unless I complain about it and it’s currently affecting our relationship. I also clean up behind him and he gets off at 3pm and will stay in the guest room smoking until it’s time for him to go to sleep. He will have an attitude if i ask him to feed our daughter and change her because he says he wants 30 minutes to himself before bed when he literally gets off and has all the time to himself.. last night he rushed me to get out of the shower because he wanted i gts.. it really made me angry cause i get no time to myself..also yesterday I had no time to eat and he goes “why didn’t you eat” and i told him like i didn’t have time to, he then goes “why didn’t you ask for time?” like sorry but i literally shouldn’t have to ask for time to eat..he asks if i want him to take feedings (after we already spoke about the situation) like babe you shouldn’t have to ask, she’s your daughter as well and i mean you KNOW i could use the time for me then he says he will feed her then doesn’t because he’s sooo tired and sore but literally the first month and a half of her life ( he took paternity leave) and I was still the only one parenting, while i was hurt, could barely walk but never complained only ever spoke to him about helping. so i just want to know how to fix this and what other moms take on the situation is (i have spoken to him about it multiple times but he literally doesn’t try to understand where I ask coming from)