My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years-2 of which we live together.

He is by far the grossest person I’ve met. He does not clean up after himself, rarely flushes the toilet, leaves cups around the house, feeds his dog while I am cooking, comes home from work in dirty clothes and walks around the house (until I say something), licks and sniffs on me like he is a dog, just to name a few.

He does a lot of self indulging, watches movies and videos and snuggles/make out with his dog. He drinks coffee excessively, order addictive substances off of the internet, stays at work late to hang with work buddies who are younger than him.

He holds college degrees but settles for a job that has no benefits, less pay because he gets to do what he likes and has no ambitions.

I do not request money for bills, when we go somewhere I expect for him to pay, he complains.

His mom often stops by and will say, “Thank you for putting up with him.” “I love you because you are good to him.” All of which makes me want to run.

When I try to communicate my frustrations, he agrees and says he is trying. I feel like there is no change in sight. His responses are usually to avoid confrontations. I too am non-confrontational, but I feel like I am wasting my time with someone who does not care.

I have two young children who are not his, they have started to make remarks on his bad habits. I am scared for what might come of this situation down the line. We agreed to seek counseling but I a feel like this is bigger than couples counseling.

Just venting because I have no one outside this group. Other friends/family think that I should move on.