do i have a right to be upset?

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i’ve been with my partner for nearly a year, i have 1 kid to my ex, he has 3 kids to 3 different women, he has met my son, i have met 1 of his kids but i’m not allowed to meet the other 2 children…
today he organised his daughter that i’ve met to meet up with the other 2 kids (it was the kids first time meeting) and i wasn’t invited to go but he invited his ex (his sons mum)… now the only reason he invited his ex was because the other daughters mums partner was there so he thought “why not”.. so i expressed that it made me feel abit upset as i feel i should be included in things like this but instead he pushes me aside and doesn’t bother..

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That sounds like it's more about the kids meeting each other rather than anything else. Which no offence is actually nothing to do with you. That's a big moment for the kids so I agree their own mums should be there. You being there would probably interfere with that. If this is a long term relationship then there's plenty of time for that. But this is about the kids.

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Idk but her(the ex he invited) son was going to meet his sister for the first time. I mean its not like an ex he doesn't have a child with, this is the mom of one of the children going, the daughter's mom also would be there and him(the dad). Plus you said you arent allowed to meet the other 2 children. So i really cant say since i dont know their dynamic. But just know 3 kids with 3 woman, there is going to be drama and issues.

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Why are you not allowed to meet the other 2 kids? Im confused.

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This is so complicated and honestly not worth all the extra hoops and drama. I understand why you’re hurt but also it’s so weird that the siblings have never met, so I understand why he’s doing it how he is. If he wants to be a good father he needs to take her to court and fight for legal custody so she can’t dictate that someone he’s been dating almost year can’t be around the kids. This doesn’t seem like a relationship that’s going to last.

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3 kids with 3 different women sounds like a 🚩 
Don’t involve yourself in this drama & walk away imo

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Besides, the fact that he has 3 children with 3 different women says quite a lot about him. If you have a child with him  that'll be 4 with 4 and etc if yall break up.

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This isn’t about you. His children- who are siblings are meeting for the first time. Their mothers there are present. Nothing strange about any of that. You are a stranger to these children and don’t need to be there for this particular event- you’ve never met these children and they’ve got enough on their plate with this situation. 
You say you’re “not allowed” but by whom? Moms? Your partner? This is something the two of you will need to work out but it’s not the time with this particular situation.

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Why can't you meet the other 2? That makes no sense.

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No. It’s not about you. It’s about children meeting their siblings and their moms have to be there. These aren’t your children. You’ve only been with him for 1 year. That’s not a long time. The other mothers might not feel comfortable with you being there either.

do i have a right to be upset?

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