Advice maybe

I told my marriage counselor that my husband and I fight about everything. I told her he demanded I make him a chore list so he knows what to do and when to do it. But i personally know that will make no difference because I have done it before and it changed nothing. So why should i do it again and get the same results? "Put toilet paper back, pick up your clothes, take out the trash, don't leave dishes on your computer- let them mold and then leave them in the sink for ME to take care of." I have written in massive dry erase marker that he needs to give the kids their antibiotics along with a verbal reminder - didn't do it. I reminded him in text and verbally to take out the kitty litter- didn't do it. Nothing I say ever gets done. SHE said why not make the list? I responded with I'm not his mom and he should be able to coinhabit a space and be able to see what needs to be cleaned or taken care of. She said "oh so you're shitting on yourself by calling yourself his mother" "just make the list and he'll either do it or he won't." I don't feel like this is good advice. Anyone have any other advice on this?