Does counseling help in a controlling marriage? Every few months my husband goes into this deep dark state and mentally and emotionally puts me down. It could be from the basket of laundry I’ve left for a week to my desk and closet being unorganized. He got upset at me the other day because I couldn’t put my daughter to bed and he flipped out on me. He hasn’t talked to me since. He can go weeks without talking to me, something I’m not use to. This is the family dynamic he is use too, they stonewall when they get mad for weeks, months and even years. It’s so unhealthy and I can’t take it anymore. I don’t know what to do, I’m so unhappy but I love him when he’s himself. Should we see a counselor?