Frustrated with daughters dad

Is it just normal for dads not to do shit to help support his child or take care of the house? My daughter will be 2 next month and her dad barely helps me with her. I feel like at this point it would be easier to just be a single mom bc that’s how I feel already. I’m the only one who puts her to bed, he has to be reminded to feed her when he does watch her on his own and most of the time he gives her junk food and snacks instead of actual meals. He’s constantly wanting to send her to his moms house instead of just watching her while I work. All he wants to do is play video games. He doesn’t even buy her anything she needs. I’m responsible for diapers, wipes, toys - everything. If I’m short on money and have to ask him to pick something up for her I feel guilty about it even though she’s his kid too. I feel guilty anytime I ask him to do anything for her. If I don’t feel good and ask him to give her a bath I feel guilty. If I need some extra sleep and ask him to watch her, I feel guilty. Most of the time I just push through with what I have bc in all honesty I’m not sure I can trust him to take care of her. If i talk to him about how I feel he’ll step up for a couple days and then go back to not doing anything to help or needing to be asked to help, which like I said makes me feel bad for needing to ask him. He doesn’t take care of the house either. He won’t touch a dish, he won’t do his own laundry, he’s actually said he expects me to do it. I’m just so tired and frustrated and i constantly feel like I’m on the verge of a mental breakdown. I genuinely think things would be easier if it were just me and my daughter. I know that this is my fault bc he’s who I chose to have a baby with, but he wasn’t this lazy before she was born. I use to help do things and never made me feel bad for needing his help with something.