Why won’t he help?

How can I get the father of my child to do more? My son will be a year old soon. I’ve been dealing with everything on my own basically. The dad goes to work almost daily and thinks it’s a get out of jail free card because he needs his sleep, and barely does anything else. Barely plays with him, doesn’t feed him solids he says “oh you want mama to feed you” or he says he doesn’t want to eat for him. Oh and another thing he’s like always on his phone. So my son sees him on his phone a lot. I feel bad for my son because he deserves one on one time. Then when I take a break or whatever for 10 mins he’s just on his phone “watching” the baby. Like he thinks of the stuff this way. “Watching” he’s not watching his baby it’s his baby! The dad thinks he leaves work he don’t have nothing else to do. I don’t understand. Then I’ll say you can spend time with him just you and him then he will say “i thought you would join us”

How can I always join them if nobody else is doing bottles, vacuuming, cleaning the kitchen and bathroom. Like whose going to do this if I don’t do it while my son is spending time with his dad? I don’t understand if he thinks like a maid stops by at night and cleans the stuff and leaves but it don’t get done like that, I do it.

I’ve talked to him multiple times. It goes in one ear and out the other seems like. Except when I about loose it, he then suddenly remembers I need team work.

Also, how can I work and do everything and take care of my son? I feel like that would be very stressful even though lately I’ve been wanting to go back to work. I’m not sure what to do at this point but I will completely loose it if I go to work, take care of my son and have to clean up after a grown ass man. That will not be good at all.

Update: he’s younger than me by like 5.5 years he just turned 28. Good idea about getting the book out too