16 month over stimulated by the screen

So we went abroad to visit the grandparents for 6 weeks (husband’s parents). They’ve basically spent their time with the baby in front of the ipad , taking her to their room and Making her watch the iPad and at SUCH close range. For some strange reason, my baby was so scared of the grandmother (despite being fine with her back in October and on video calls), so to get the chance to sit with baby and be with her, MIL kept relying on the iPad.

I voiced my concerns and grievances with my husband, and even explained to the in-laws, who THEMSELVES tried to lecture me about not using the iPad with the baby (even though I don’t actually use it in the way they do), but I just got shut down and scolded, and verge of divorce. Got told “little bit of tv time never killed nobody” but it is ducking hours of iPad time.

Now I’m fucked coz baby is showing alllll the signs of being over stimulated - tired but refusing to sleep, now going towards and taking a massive interest in my phone and to try and unlock and use it, only 8-9hrs of sleep. HOW DO I U DO FHIS WHEN IM BACK HOME. DREADING THR FLIGHt BACK. baby was amazing on the outbound flight - NO Tv or movies or YouTube or ANYTHJNG. just playing with her toys and interested in the surroundings.

At home she would go to sleep by 5pm/6pm and wake up at around 6am. Mainly played with her toys, tried strengthening herself with reliance on the iPad when I was making her baby pasta /food whilst she was in her high - chair, and it would be amiss Rachel, Ms Moni or Bounce patrol. She now sleeps at 2am and wakes up at 10am with a 45min snooze. And I fucking asked so many times to please have her routine the same when with the in-laws and I was promised yes yet MIL kept wanting baby to be up late so we could go to the mall late and so baby was up more so she could be in baby’s presence. And then when baby was crying when out and about I got berated and blamed for it and that it’s to do with me giving her breast milk etc. No one listed Ed or respected me when I kept saying there’s a time and place for when baby needs to eat/sleep otherwise it won’t happen but nooooooo it’s “oh she’s not eating because you keep giving her milk. Oh she doesn’t like pasta or what you’re giving her, give her melty sticks “ etc etc