I think I want to attempt a VBAC but my bf says absolutely not

I’m pregnant with my 2nd baby, my 1st just turned 2 last month. I had to have a c section because my 1st was frank breech. At my last 2 appointments my doctor has asked if I want to do a repeat c-section or if I want to attempt a VBAC so we can discuss my birth plan. I haven’t fully made my mind up yet but I feel like I have been leaning more towards VBAC because even though my c section went very smoothly, the recovery was hard even with just one baby so the thought of having another major surgery with not only a newborn but a newborn and a toddler makes me nervous.🥲 it would definitely be harder this time around. I also have lots of nerve damage around my scar and what I call “dead spots” in my lower stomach where I can’t feel anything. Certain spots either burn and hurt to touch, or are completely numb with no feeling and I feel like another c section would make that worse. I am nervous about a VBAC too because of the potential risks and I’m afraid if I do have complications I’ll end up having an emergency c section and risk being put to sleep which I DO NOT want. But it’s just the possibility of it being successful that keeps me going back to that option, the recovery would be easier with 2 kids, my nerve damage wouldn’t worsen, I would get to experience a natural birth. But my bf says absolutely not and is really pushing for me to have another c section. Whenever we talk about it he almost seems to get upset at me for wanting to attempt VBAC and says it would be “selfish” to risk it this soon and if something went wrong he doesn’t want to be left alone with our kids and be without me. He says he feels it would be better for me to avoid the risks all together and just have another c section since my last one was only 2 years ago. He’s basically begging me to do a repeat c section, I know he’s coming from a good place and is just worried and doesn’t want anything to happen to me, but I’ve told him plenty of women have successful VBACs. And I’ve not even completely made my mind up yet. I’m still going through the pros and cons of both options so nothing is set in stone as of right now. I’m just having a hard time deciding because he doesn’t even want to discuss a VBAC at all.