Am I the problem?

Hi,

Everyone just needing some advice with a new guy I’m dating.

I’ve bn talking to this new guy for weeks, he seems kind hearted, funny and caring. We’ve bn out on dates a few times, he’s introduced me to his friends, opened up about his family to me which are all good signs but I have bn burned soo many times in the past being naive and lack of boundaries. Well now I’m implementing the things I’ve learned and trying to be cautious and vigilant. I’ve noticed that he’s not trying to have sex with me which is good but makes me question if hes attracted to me (maybe I’m just used toxic users). Same time I’ve noticed he’s taking things slow which to me is nice. He contacts me regularly but asked me to contact him if I don’t hear from him that even if he doesn’t reply he also wants to see I’m putting effort. I feel like I do contact him occasionally and tbh I’m not into the chase game but is his request for me to also check up on him fair? I know it sounds silly but I’m scared to look interested as I’ve showed interest in the past and it was significantly abused. He said it will be nice for him to see messages from me or calls even if he forgets to call me. That I’m overthinking things. I dunno quite a few guys have mentioned the same issue with me and I don’t know if it’s me or these guys want me to chase.