He's my bestfriend and I'm ready to leave him.

We met when i was in a very very strict religious community and he rescued me. Ive since grown into a beautiful, open person and leaving my community meant saying goodbye to my parents,4 siblings and extended family. He became my assistant (im a photographer) and i have a daughter who he's been a father too since she was 4 . We weathered covid, grief, medical stuff, mental illness, miscarriages and poverty together. Always a team, always lovers, always together Now to fast forward to today.... i work from home with my business and homeschool the 9 year old AND I'm still nursing the 1 year old. I work so i didn't get chores dones, my husband comes home and has his unwind routine (we all need those) and cooks dinner (he cooks most meals). Then he dances with the baby a little, i bathe baby and it takes 45 minutes to get her down (she's teething). I'm spent from the day and ready to connect but my husband already tired from being a bar manager. My house is mess because i have to choose to work, school or clean and i usually just do the chores that i HAVE to get done,like dishes. My husband and i have been living together almost 5 years and he's never cleaned the bathroom, he's cleaned the living room maybe 4 times and when he rarely does the dishes, its just dishes (no counters, floors etc) and i had a baby with noooo help. He wouldn't rock her, feed her, bathe her, do the bedtime routine... just holding her for 30 minutes a day or every couple of days so i can shower. He got up with the baby recently for 5 minutes (woke up with her, changed her and gave her back) and i almost cried out of relief. We have always been a team but having this baby has shown me his true feelings. He just lets me do it all. He will literally run and hide if i ask him to help. Our sex life.... he likes to have sex in the evening or sometimes around dinner time..... i know this because if i try to initiate any other time...he's not in the mood. Most times there's no foreplay because I feel "ready" and tons of blowjobs. I don't mind giving; i actually enjoy it but he will leave me hanging after.... no fingering or anything to help me get off. Sex feels good and i guess its often enough but.... it's rarely how i want it,when i want it..... im ready when he gets home from work but he will tell me that he's too tired and will go masterbate. I'm all for masturbating but my feelings get a little hurt when ive communicated that I'd like to have sex when he gets home....So today has been a long day...my house is a hot mess, i have a crying baby, my oldest is hungry,im taking a business call and i don't have girl friends to hang with..... and i can't ask my husband to help. Baby won't soothe herself with him so every,single night ive put her to bed.... for 14 months. Yes, I've begged him, wrote him clear,stern and loving letters about how i need more help and what i like sexually.....also our money... he gives me $20 a month (notevery month)and will buy me something if i ask but i have nooo control over the money. Boxes come in daily and idk what they are until i open them and it's sometimes things for the house and sometimes his stuff. Yesterday was Mother's day and im very chill but he forgot until noon to wish me a happy Mother's day, he didn't get me a card (i absolutely loveee cards.i keep them all) made a comment of why dishes weren't done ( i worked) then acted like he was going to do them but i did them....and refused to make homemade bubbles (that's all i wanted to do on Mother's day...blow bubbles with my girls)and refused to let me because it was too messy. So, tonight, after putting a screaming baby to bed, by myself.... it hit me. It was easier when i was a single mom. I want out. Out of this marriage to a man that i love soooo dearly but has failed me. He gave me a beautiful image of a loving, supportive husband in the beginning but 14 months is too long to skip over your partner when they're stretched thin. He broke my trust, he broke my dream of what i thought parenthood would look like and.... he lost a little love from me because I don't have support, and ive had to do it all .. ..what do i do?????Update: yes the money from my business goes towards our bills or whatever he spends it on