Me and my bf have never gotten into any serious arguments thank god, but they always seem to escalate because he tries to dismiss them rather than talk through things.

For example last night I was in a bad mood and I was partially taking it out on him. I apologized for it and he completely ignored my apology and changed subjects. Bc of that I thought he was upset with me and I went on to write a more sincere apology, which he then responded to “we can move on from it tbh lol”.

I understand it wasn’t a big deal to begin with, but I don’t like it when I write a nice apology with emotion and he just brushes it off like he can’t bear to hear another word of it.

It wasn’t even an argument at all until he started saying that I “drag things out” and that it’s not even serious so I don’t need to give him any explanation. But in my opinion it was never an argument it was a discussion and I had no idea that me trying to apologize and talk about something was making him so frustrated. In his eyes he thinks he does a good thing by completely ignoring the apology/realizing what went wrong part but to me that’s just what’s escalating it. We clearly have two different conflict styles and I’m

Not really sure how to deal with it because i always think talking things through is the better way to handle things.

We’ve never gotten into any bad arguments. We have discussions over things and they somehow always turn into arguments bc he thinks I’m “dragging things on” when I’m just reflecting and he will say that and ignore anything I say rather than just acknowledging it and putting it to rest. Am I wrong for feeling comfort from talking things through? How can we better manage our different conflict styles? Yesterday it escalated so badly that I’m afraid to even apologize or explain myself for anything again and we weren’t even arguing to being with