Idk what to do. I just don’t understand why this is happening, my bf and I have a 2 year old son. I’m pregnant with our 2nd child who is a girl. We found out at 10 weeks by a blood test and I’m now 5 months, we have had it confirmed since then so he’s had time to accept that this baby is a girl. He wanted a boy and seemed to have just a little bit of gender disappointment when we found out it wasn’t a boy but seemed to get over it I thought. After we found out he made some comments like “I won’t be able to handle a small version of you” “I don’t want her turning out like you” he said stuff like that “jokingly” but it definitely hurt my feelings. He didn’t say much about the pregnancy anymore after that. He seems totally uninterested and disconnected in every way, will not even hold a conversation or respond to anything I say about this pregnancy, didnt even wanna tell his mom the baby was a girl so I told her. He just acts very cold towards me and I almost feel like he’s been having resentment towards me because we’re having a girl or something? I can feel her kick from the outside so the other day I asked him to feel with his hand and he straight up flatly said “no” and walked out of the room. We’ve gotten into a few arguments lately and he’s said some pretty hurtful things and in a way “showed his true feelings” about this baby. He told me he wanted nothing to do with this pregnancy, he doesn’t wanna go to anymore appointments with me, said he will not buy anything, and said he will continue to take care of his son and provide for him but he’s not doing anything for “the one in my stomach”. I just don’t understand, he’s such a good dad to our son and loves him to death, he’s always hands on with him etc. but I cannot believe how he has acted about this baby. I’ve cried and cried because idk what to do or why he feels this way. I just want to leave him and finish this pregnancy by myself because clearly he’s not accepting our daughter but idk if it would be messed up to continue to let him be there for our son and be a dad to him while he is gonna want nothing to do with our daughter as he has clearly told me. My son loves his dad so much they’re really close so I don’t wanna rip him away but at the same time I just wouldn’t feel right allowing him to pick and choose which child he wants to accept. It’s not right. I want him to love both of our children equally and be there for them both equally but I don’t see that happening at this point… what should I do? I can’t believe this is even happening.