Gaslighting

I heard this term gaslighting: Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation in which the abuser attempts to sow self-doubt and confusion in their victim's mind. Typically, gaslighters are seeking to gain power and control over the other person, by distorting reality and forcing them to question their own judgment and intuition.Common phrases gaslighters may use: I never said that.""I did that because I love you.""I don't know why you're making such a huge deal of this.""You're being overly sensitive.""You are being dramatic.""You are the issue, not me.""If you loved me, you would...""You are crazy."

A type of emotional abuse, gaslighting distorts the victim’s perspective of reality, sowing seeds of self-doubt. It is manipulative, cruel, and primarily used by abusers with narcissistic tendencies. Gaslighters will lie about the details of a situation and blame the victim instead of taking responsibility for their own part. As if that’s not hurtful enough, they will then insult you by telling you that you’re too sensitive or weak to handle feedback. Their goal: to make you feel small and worthless, stripping away your sense of self as well as your self-esteem.

You invalidate your feelings by excusing others’ bad behavior.

You always second guess your decisions.

You have a strong inner critic

You blame yourself for everything.

You doubt your memories.

If a parent doesn't respect you, doesn't treat you with respect and makes you feel bad about yourself they start arguments and they blame you. What do you do with family member that psychologically play games and abuse people like narcissist and control freaks and people who are bully's they love to make others feel bad guilty responsible meanwhile the bully feels power control over them. They start arguments and discussion and they don't know how to communicate they are argumentative.

Most people love there parents and they try to make there parents happy and they want there parents to be proud of them. Most children they clean and do chores and help their parent, and some parents they expect it they don't even say thank you and that's the beginning of where parents disrespect children. children have low self esteem because the parents don't tell there children thank you I appreciate you I value your help you are worthy I'm proud of you and compliments that help a person self esteem.

If a parent can't have a conversation without them arguing then how is the child going to feel as people when we fall we get back up and we try to make our parents see us that we are good we clean we get good grades we try with job, career, college, spouse and idk if it's us internally trying to make our parents proud. Children they try to be good and it doesn't matter what environment they grow up in they love there parents and try to be good try to show respect and do what parents want but it's like children are so disrespected from parents eating together at the table to making child eat by themselves or having children eat by themselves and the parents had lights turned on and when the child comes to eat they turn the light off the child eat in the dark so it's this abuse that happens like a child trying to talk to a parent and the parent closes the door in their face.