Please don’t be negative

I’ve been with my husband for 10 years now and it seems like nothing is working he has a kid outside of us but we don’t have any yet so we have been go to the ivf doctor and I’ve done what I’m supposed to but it seems like he is at a stand still like he doesn’t wanna do his part so we can move forward with our ivf treatments by this time I’m just so over it like I told home please go to your appointment so we can move forward he keeps blowing it off nd y’all I’m 35 years old I’m not getting any younger what are you waiting for so now I’m feeling like maybe he changed his mind on having kids and y’all that’s fine just tell me that so I can decide if I wanna stay with you or if I wanna move forward alone with my ivf cuz he all ready said he don’t wanna do a donor soooo I’ll take any and all advice for ways to get him to go to his appointments or any advice on ways to get him to open up to me about why or if he changed his mind nd to top it off he’s mad I haven’t quit my job why would I tell me if I’m overthinking it please