What would you do?

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What would you do if YOU left your boyfriend when you were 7.5 months pregnant, and he didn’t try to contact you until the baby was 6.5 months old?
***for more context: He is extremely inconsistent. Didn’t even pay his mortgage. Already said “we don’t want to get the courts involved” when I messaged about child support. He said he’d pay for everything and we could do “fun coparenting things together like zoos, parks, and vacations.” And that he’d pay for all of it. What about all the diapers, bottles, clothes, formula, food, hygiene needs, medicine, etc that I’ve bought over the course of 6.5 months. Been talking since Wednesday and he finally said yesterday that he was waiting for ME to set up a time and date to meet, as usual I’m having to do all the effort, even the effort to have him involved. As if I know what weekends he works. He didn’t even ask about the baby until yesterday either. He is only doing it to get his family off his back, due to him telling them it’s my fault he isn’t involved in the first place. Why’d he wait so long to write if it was MY fault? I want what’s best for my baby, but my gut is telling me this is going to end up bad. Not due to my emotional toward him, but his actions towards the baby while I was pregnant, and towards my oldest. He ignored my son when he was mad at me. Made my son cry when he did it because my son thought he was mad at him. A 3.5 year old. Smh. He can’t ignore a baby when he is mad at me.

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That's nice of him to blame his lack of involvement on you. Does he not have a phone? I would just put him on child support. Doesn't sound like he's going to be consistent. ￼

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Theres a lot of missing information. Was he abusive? Unstable? Did you just blindside him and perhaps he needed a few months to get over that? My answer would depend on a lot of factors.

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Sounds like the father of my child smh put him on child support. not sure why men be so quick to nut inside a women knowing the consequences then not provide or be there for the child unless he ain’t want a kid to begin with

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You’ll have to put feelings about the relationship issues aside and do what’s best for the child. Is he showing consistency? Offering to pay for things for baby? Offering to help? 
Unless he is a danger to the baby, you can’t really keep him away from him anyways. He could take you to court and get at least visits

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If this is the same poster as before, you need to ditch this guy and everyone has said as much. If it’s a new poster—can’t tell based on the information given.