**When you spot users in the family

-Edit- I don’t know if you missed the part when I wrote that he said, he feels obligated and guilt tripped from his wife and he won’t say no!!! It’s different if he had offered and different to ask. This IMO is taking advantage of family.

Over the weekend for our family gathering my FIL said he’s got back and shoulder pain everywhere after helping his daughter and her husband shoveling concrete. They are building a pool in their backyard. My FIL is 70 with 145lbs!!!!!

If he was my father I would never allow it but they’ve asked him to help out in the middle of this heat. And according to him he can’t say no, his wife will guilt trip him into helping his daughter. My husband talked to his mom about it that his dad needs to be left alone with these heavy duty stuff and he shouldn’t be obligated to help out if he can’t.

I love my in-laws and he’s a great man, it just makes me furious that his own daughter cannot see how selfish that is. Over the weekend, she didn’t even approach her father to ask how he’s doing. I’m thankful my husband mentioned this to his mom and she had nothing to say in return. I’m not sure if it’s my place to say anything.