Help me

My husband collects unemployment but it is not enough to cover the expenses for our home and the children plus dog. I work full time and while I’m working he’s rapping in the room smoking weed all day. When he’s not rapping he’s glued to his phone making album covers and things. He’s not focused on me or the kids or talk to me about finances. When I bring finances up he’s upset and frustrated like he’s doing all he can and it’s always about money with me. I don’t ask for much . I’m not asking him to pay for my hair and my nails or take me out to nice restaurants. I just want half on the expenses. Not $100 twice a month. It’s not going to work. He need to provide more for us and for me. My boys hair needs cut and if I don’t bring it up he doesn’t either. He gets so angry when I say I just want us to be better examples for the kids. Our boys look up to him and watch him daily and he just smokes and raps at home at 38 with no drive for his family and our union..I feel so lost . He never cares about what’s due or the amount. He just leaves when we argue and go to his house he owns that his late grandmother left him. That house he has , has absolutely nothing to do with me and the kids. It’s pretty much his house that she left him and his dad and him have control over it. He has a studio so his friends come at times and records and he’s of course lives there. He says he owns out and it’s his and sometimes brags about it. That bothers me too that when we at having bar moments he just packs up and move to his house and then comes back like things are ok. I feel like I’m losing myself