Dating for 5 years and still no talk about our future together?!

Question

So my Boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 years now, and he doesn't like it when I talk about our future. For example I see on Facebook and or Instagram my friends and relatives are now engaged and having babies or something related to. I feel bad because he's and I have been together for so long and my friends and relatives have been with their significant other for a lot less time than we have. When I try to talk about it to him 9/10 times we end up fighting and I just end up crying myself to sleep that night. What do I do ladies? I could use some girlfriends about now...

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I know exactly what your going through I have been with my ex for 6 six years, and just like you all of our close friends were getting married, having kids everything. And I would ask him about our future, he also got angry. I had to realize that it wasn't because he didnt think of the future, he didnt want a future with me. 5 years is a very long time and if he isn't even willing to talk to you about a what if possibility,  then he isn't worth it.

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Well first of all, guys don't like to feel pressured or bombarded. Instead of coming out and asking him lots of questions about the future (that could freak him out) maybe try just talking about what you hope for the future and let him chime in or ask him what he thinks. The amount of time you date shouldn't determine when you get married or determine the quality of your relationship. Also, he may have family history of things going south in marriages and therefore have a fear of jumping in too soon. Granted, it is important to talk about, if you're meant I be together then it will work out. :)

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How old are you both? My abswer depends on your age.

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My best friend just got married to her high school sweetheart after 10 years. She got proposed to in November and got married in August. Same thing though she saw everyone around her including me get married before her but he just wasn't ready yet. Things  happen when they are meant to. Although the fact he won't discuss it at all isn't a good sign.

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Be more open with him... ask him question that's what I have to do and he is perfectly okay with it

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Ask questions about the future ?
​Ask if he wants kids etc ...

Dating for 5 years and still no talk about our future together?!

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