My husband of four years has erectile dysfunction which started after a year of ttc. We have had sex maybe five times max in 2015 because I gave him space and he never intiated. He never intiates sex and says it's lack of confidence.

I'm getting frustrated of the situation but love him although I resent him for not initiating.

I have been patient and it's only got worse. He has tried ciallis with no luck and doctor would not give us viagara.

On top of all this we recently discovered that we have male factor infertility which has killed any confidence and hope we had left of conceiving naturally.

I have not told anyone and feel trapped and depressed by all this. We both love each other and want to fix this but recently i have started thinking about having sex with someone else because i miss it so much and just want proper hard erection without worrying about it ending after a few minutes.

At 34 we shouldn't be having this issue. He cried once I told him I wanted out as i feel oppressed without sex. My ex and i were at it 24/7 but he as a total moron even though he made me feel sexy

I've asked my husband if he is attracted to me and he says he is but never touches me sexually! Only hugs and kisses which aren't really passionate. He doesn't like oral and he French kissing. I love both.

There is a young man at work who is crazy about me and we flirt and I feel like having a wild time with him just the once. I feel guilty but I can't seem to fix this problem with husband. He doesn't help himself by finding solutions it's always me who is buying meds and pushing him to workout.

Other than all this we don't have kids yet but I know he will make a great father. He pays all the bills and works two jobs. He cooks and cleans and brings me breakfast in bed. I work and save all my salary. He never asks me for money and has no idea how much I earn. And I don't do much house work but I cook most of the time. He will go back to school soon and will work only part-time.

Last year he quit his job and didn't work for five months and i was hoping lack of stress would help but he still didn't intiate and all attempts of penetrative sex failed but he mafe me come via oral even though he hated it.

We live with my 70 year old mother so don't pay a lot of money towards her house. I wonder if having our own place would make things better but he doesn't want to move out

Please help me. Tell me what you would do in my situation.