Is there a nice way to deal with relatives who give age-inappropriate gifts?

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Some of my family insists on buying my daughter gifts that are not appropriate for her age. She's going to be one, and my mother-in-law wants to buy a huge outdoor playset (like the ones you get at Costco). I've explained many times that those are for kids who are much older, but she insists that her babies played on them. I figure she can buy it but we won't put it up until she's old enough. I have other family members who buy Barbies and bead kits.
I've said many times that my daughter is too little for these things but they will not listen. They say "just watch her when she plays with them". I have given them more age appropriate toy suggestions but they refuse. They think buying toys like Barbies/beads is better because my daughter can play with them for years and years, whereas if they buy her baby toys, she might get another year out of them before she outgrows it.
I have explained many times the choking risks but I get dismissed. I have pointed out that the package says for children 3+, or even 5+. There's a reason why my child is never around them unattended.
It's gotten to the point that when we get these toys, I've started selling them (they never give me receipts) and using the money to buy my daughter something else age appropriate. This pisses people off, but I tell them that they need to buy age appropriate toys if they insist on buying her toys, otherwise this is what will happen.
Am I in the wrong for being like this? People are telling me I'm being stupid and if I just watched her while she plays this wouldn't be a problem, but I'd rather not take any risks. They put stuff in their mouths so quickly!
Edit to the above: The reason I sell them is because we currently don't have places to store these items. We live in a really small house so we have to be very careful about what we store. The playset they got my daughter is for kids 5+ and it's simply not safe for her at this stage. We can put a baby swing/toddler swing on it, but the steps to get to the treehouse part are too widely spaced for her and the slide and treehouse are just too big.
I even suggested a different playset but they wouldn't go for it.

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Whenever someone gives me something age inappropriate, if it’s not too big, I just tell them “Thanks so much, this will be great for when she’s older!” And then I put it in her closet to keep for later. If anyone says they want her to play with it now, I firmly say, “This isn’t safe for her at this age, but it’s still a really nice gift, thank you. We’ll keep it for when she can play with it safely.”

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Say thank you and store what you can until later. If you can’t store it you can continue on with what you’re doing (selling or exchanging for a more age appropriate toy). But I’d stop wasting your energy on explaining it to other people. They heard you and they’re disregarding what you said. It’s not great, but you have some workarounds.

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I don’t think you’re in the wrong at all. I certainly wouldn’t want my kids playing with things like beads either and my kids are 4.5 and 2. But since you’ve already tried to suggest more age appropriate toy options and they’re still purchasing items your daughter can’t play with just yet, rather than selling them, I’d just stash them away until she’s old enough for them.

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You say thank you and pull it out once ready! They’ll be ready sooner than you think! 
I will say my daughter was playing on a play set with me in arms reach by 15m old. She was able to do the rock wall by 20m. She also swinging on a big kid swing since 19m. So I don’t think a play set for a first birthday is a bad idea. 
My daughter got a Barbie dream house for her second birthday (which is actually on the 14th). And she loves it. So barbies would only need to be put away for 1 year max. 
They grow up SO much between 1 to 2. 
A 12m old is still baby like. A 15m is starting to do big things. An 18m is starting to not look like a baby. A 21m old is looking like such a toddler. And 24m olds are full blown sassy bossy toddler. 😂
Hope this helps!

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I’m 100% with you. And I don’t think you have any obligation to keep them for later either!

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I think a playset like that is a great gift!! We had a swing set when my boys were that young and even if they couldn't really play on it we attached a baby swing and used that a lot up until they were able to actually play on the equipment. Then once they got older we removed the baby swing and put the traditional swings on. My boys are now 6 and 3 and would still play on the swing set but unfortunately we moved and didn't want to take it with us since we made a whole play area out of it. But they tell me all the time how they miss it! The barbies and beads though are a different thing. I'd definitely get rid of the beads but maybe save a few of the barbies for when she is ready to play with him. I always make a list for our family on ideas for gifts. Some don't always buy from it, but it helps them from buying something so completely off the way most of the time.

Is there a nice way to deal with relatives who give age-inappropriate gifts?

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