Husband bipolar

This is a vent. Enjoy. I know I do when I see them. Husband acts bipolar. Tonight, husband laid down earlier than me. Has to be up for 9am appt. This is early for us. We work 1300-2200 schedule. So yes, this is early for us. Laid down earlier than me but didn’t really set our room up for like ‘going to bed.’ We usually, when kids are here, close and lock all doors, turn on window unit ac. He didn’t do any of that. So, my thoughts are, after tucking my kids in, I’m gonna go in and try to have some fun time. Total bust. Started feeling around…things were going well, physically, then when I ask you ok? He loses his shit. Says right off the bat NO, I guess I need to start being an asshole to everyone. Nobody gets it, I just gotta be an asshole to everybody. (Side note shit at his work has been complicated and he’s a supervisor.) I was totally caught off guard by his response, but also checking to see if I’m off my rocker. After he said what he said to me, he just kept on blaming/accusing me of being too extra, needing too much, being too sexual. Like literally I was groping him and feeling on him and he’s responding, but I’m the problem. I’m doing too much. I told him you can communicate with me if this is something you don’t want. Like tell me, ‘I’m tired, I gotta get up, I’m not in the mood’ …anything…but he doesn’t do that. So I’m the bad guy. Always. Seriously it’s always like this.