I never thought I'd be in this position but my almost three year old son is throwing monster tantrums. He only does it with me and does not do it with my fiance. My fiance says he just doesn't put up with it and doesn't reward the behavior. He used to just let him throw a tantrum and now my son doesn't do it with him anymore. I tried to do what my fiance was doing but I cannot let my son scream so hard that he's passing out.

My fiance and I fight about it because I don't think it's good for my son to be this upset. He's going to burst something or end up in hospital. I'm sure he's having a seizure sometimes but the doctors have told me he's shaking in rage, and that it's not a seizure (he threw one in the ER when I took him because he passed out from screaming). My fiance and our doctor both say this is purely behavior and there's nothing physically wrong with my son.

I know eventually he'll stop throwing a tantrum but I cannot keep letting him do this. It breaks my heart so if he's throwing a tantrum at Walmart, I just buy him whatever he wants and it stops. I know it's bad and it's teaching him bad habits but I don't want him screaming that hard and the people at the hospital think I'm crazy for bringing him in for tantrums.

My son will not take no for an answer. The other day we went to Walmart for groceries and he threw a tantrum because I told him we weren't going to see the toys, so I took him to the toys and he stopped, then he threw another tantrum because he wanted this dinosaur toy and I said no. He started to scream and turn purple from holding his breath so I ended up buying the toy and then some things at the checkout too. I know this is so bad but it's the only thing that works to get him to not hurt himself by screaming and passing out.

I've tried a bunch of things but my problem is that I can't stop myself from giving in. I know I'm part of the problem but he's so little. In my gut I just feel like letting him scream is wrong. Nothing I've tried, besides giving him what he wants, gets him to stop screaming.

Please help us 🙏