My moms in town staying with us because I’m about to have my first baby, she’ll be here for a month and is the only family I’ve literally ever had it’s always been just us two. most of the time she is pretty helpful. She helps cook and clean, will help pay for things. But there’s this other side to her too that I hated growing up with and don’t want my daughter to be subjected too after she’s born.

My mom has a “poor me” attitude, and she drinks lots of wine every day which leads to her to emotionally implode on me. And she doesn’t bring up normal things, last night for example she tried to pick a fight with my fiancé after drinking because he said “it don’t” instead of “it doesn’t” and that wasn’t proper grammar. Like who tf cares? I shut it down which turned her attention to me and she wouldn’t stop arguing, I kept telling her she was acting crazy and that this behavior isn’t normal or healthy. My fiancé said it’s not that serious and we should just let it go and she told him to shut up! I went off at this point and she started jumping from weird reason to reason as to why she’s acting this way but refused to acknowledge it’s the alcohol.

She went from “you don’t know what I’ve been through”, “I’m acting this way because I’m going to die soon and proper grammar is my gift I’d like to leave my granddaughter”, “my whole life I just wanted someone to love me”, etc, none of this shit made any sense!

She threatened to leave early after I told her that I’m drawing a boundary now that she cannot drink like this anymore around me or at all in front of my baby because this is INSANE and I’m sick of it! My whole life she’s done this, and it’s so weird and toxic to me.

After I told her no more she accused me of trying to change her and that she wouldn’t stop for me or anyone else, that I’m condescending and if I really think she’s “a danger to my baby then by all means protect her”

Today has been strained and awkward and I just don’t know what to do, I’ve never stood up to her like this and threatened to cut her off before and I want to focus on having my baby without this outside stress but she does this every damn time I see her. Good for a few days but then goes off the rails and I’m at a loss, she didn’t really sound like she is gonna respect my boundaries and she brought a new box of wine to my house today but I haven’t seen her drink any of it yet? Please anyone help me navigate this…