Please give me some insight on toxic mom š©
My moms in town staying with us because Iām about to have my first baby, sheāll be here for a month and is the only family Iāve literally ever had itās always been just us two. most of the time she is pretty helpful. She helps cook and clean, will help pay for things. But thereās this other side to her too that I hated growing up with and donāt want my daughter to be subjected too after sheās born.
My mom has a āpoor meā attitude, and she drinks lots of wine every day which leads to her to emotionally implode on me. And she doesnāt bring up normal things, last night for example she tried to pick a fight with my fiancĆ© after drinking because he said āit donātā instead of āit doesnātā and that wasnāt proper grammar. Like who tf cares? I shut it down which turned her attention to me and she wouldnāt stop arguing, I kept telling her she was acting crazy and that this behavior isnāt normal or healthy. My fiancĆ© said itās not that serious and we should just let it go and she told him to shut up! I went off at this point and she started jumping from weird reason to reason as to why sheās acting this way but refused to acknowledge itās the alcohol.
She went from āyou donāt know what Iāve been throughā, āIām acting this way because Iām going to die soon and proper grammar is my gift Iād like to leave my granddaughterā, āmy whole life I just wanted someone to love meā, etc, none of this shit made any sense!
She threatened to leave early after I told her that Iām drawing a boundary now that she cannot drink like this anymore around me or at all in front of my baby because this is INSANE and Iām sick of it! My whole life sheās done this, and itās so weird and toxic to me.
After I told her no more she accused me of trying to change her and that she wouldnāt stop for me or anyone else, that Iām condescending and if I really think sheās āa danger to my baby then by all means protect herā
Today has been strained and awkward and I just donāt know what to do, Iāve never stood up to her like this and threatened to cut her off before and I want to focus on having my baby without this outside stress but she does this every damn time I see her. Good for a few days but then goes off the rails and Iām at a loss, she didnāt really sound like she is gonna respect my boundaries and she brought a new box of wine to my house today but I havenāt seen her drink any of it yet? Please anyone help me navigate thisā¦
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