My man’s coworker friend called me a crazy Bi@tch.

bout a year ago my man graduated from his training class at work and befriended the only other guy who works there. The whole class wanted to go out to the bar/bowling alley and pool hall (it’s a big place) to celebrate, I assumed my man was inviting me as I had just taken him out with me and my co workers and we had no children this night so I got dressed and ready only to end with a fight because I wasn’t invited. This really hurt my feelings, not just becuase I wasn’t invited but because the fit he threw about it he had never acted this way. So I put my foot down and said I’m not sitting home all night with no kids I’m going, I’ll just leave you be and I’m sure I’ll know someone else there (at the time we went out a lot and I always saw a girlfriend or two so I was sure I could fine my own entertainment, plus we only had 1 car) and the place is huge so it’s not like he would even have to be around me. He threw a fit and decided he was not going at all if I was going. Later I found out that the only people who showed were 2 girls and this guy (not the whole class) so had my man went it would have almost been like a double date. This created problems as I felt like he was lying. Now fast forward 2 months ago this friend from work called. My man answered on speaker phone, here’s how the call went.

Coworker: Hey, what’s up?

My man: nothing what’s good?

Coworker: Can I speak freely?

My man: lol yea are you drunk?

Coworker: No I mean is (my name) around?

My man: umm yea she’s right here what do you need?

Coworker: to talk to you about something

My man: okay go ahead

Coworker: so is (my name) still around or can I speak freely?

My man: she’s right here

Coworker: okay nvm ttyl *hangs up* and immediately starts texting.

So I’m immediately pissed. I’m like what was that about? Why can’t he speak freely around me? Already suspicious becuase of the last encounter. This causes a fight as I feel my man is lying like last time. So then the “coworker friend” msgs me. And says he’s sorry jaramy isn’t up to anything he just wanted to talk to my man about this girls ass they work with. my response was aren’t you married? He says yes so I msg his wife and tell her about the phone call then send her the screen shots. She thanks me says she’s fed up with his shit and she’s sorry and we befriend each other. this creates a huge fight between me and my man becuase he thinks I am out of line. I absolutely do not feel that way. Now fast forward to last night we got into a huge fight about my man saying he didn’t need me he could do everything I could. So when he went to bed I went thru his phone.

I didn’t find anything so I decided to go thru the msgs between him and the co worker friend. I found that he called me a crazy bi@tch and cuckoo and my man AGREED and apologized to him. Then I go on to find this friend has sent some pictures of a girl in a bikini on a boat that I’m pretty sure they work with her.

So I’m pissed I tell me man how dare he let another man call me such a disrespectful name. His response? “I’m sure if I go thru you and your sistsers msgs I’ll find her calling me names too” this is absolutely not true I would go off if she ever called him some names like that. Now my man is saying I deserved it and brought it on myself by msging his wife in the first place.

I feel so hurt and betrayed and can’t believe he’d let another man call me a crazy bi@tch. He won’t even acknowledge the bikini girl pictures . I’m ready to leave him over this . He says I’m being dramatic and causing problems so I can be mad for NO reason. So what I’m asking is am I wrong? Or would you be ready to drop the relationship if your man let another man call you names ?