Sooo I'm debating if I should send my former "best friend" Christina an invite to our shower in December, even if just out of courtesy. We had been friends for over a decade, roommates in college, each other's maid of honors, all that jazz. Ever since I told her that my other very close friend Ashlie had the gender reveal planned (I had her be the only person who knew the gender, so it would be a surprise to my husband and I as well). They never have liked eachother since they butted heads being in my bridal party years ago. And Christina has always come off as a jealous person like I'm not allowed to have other girl friends, even my other friends have said the same that she's been rude to them for no reason. Christina lives over an hour from me with no kids and Ashlie lives down the street from me with kids, so it's just something that has brought us even closer together, especially because she was a huge support during my fertility treatments. Honestly I haven't even enjoyed my time spent with Christina in awhile. We had an agreement we would take turns doing the 1+ drive to each other, but my husband and I were usually the ones going to them. When it would be her turn she would always cancel last minute because of anxiety, a headache etc...and she rarely ever came to anything that was a group, like my birthday parties. We had a girls trip planned and she cancelled. When we were at their house her and her husband would literally fight Infront of us, every single time. and even though she said I can pick whoever I want to be the keeper of the gender, the second I told her Ashlie had it taken care of she turned cold. She wanted Ashlie to tell her the gender. She kept posting super passive aggressive things on Facebook about how she's sick of being pushed aside and putting effort into friendships that don't return the same effort. When I messaged her asking if she was referring to me, she said it had "nothing to do with me". I feel if we were such "best friends" than we should have been able to have an adult conversation talking about how we both apparently feel the other person doesn't give equal effort. She didn't come to my gender reveal because she had a tooth pulled a couple days before. But she went to her cousins baby shower the next day, posting that she was celebrating "the cutest expecting mama she knows". We haven't spoken a word since she told me she wasn't going to come, she didn't acknowledge that I'm having a girl at all, not even a Facebook like. So we haven't spoken going on 2 months. And now according to her social media she is moving, I'm assuming to Florida because they've always talked about it (I'm in CT she's in RI)

So do I send her an invite still because we were friends for a long time, or no because she hasn't even acknowledged my daughter...

Also if she's moving who knows if she'd even get it in the mail.

Someone also mentioned she may take it as me just trying to get a gift from her, even though I didn't think of it that way at all.

What would you do?? Thank you!