My bf acts like I’m a horrible person or something. Should I end the relationship?
My bf and I have been together for about a year or so. Lately I’m starting to feel like he just thinks so poorly of me like I’m this horrible sneaky person or something out to get him and I have NO idea why. Like he does not trust me at all and idk why. It’s to the point it’s making me consider if I’m even gonna be able to have a “life” with him ever if it doesn’t stop. I don’t even like going and staying at his house for long periods of time anymore or being there when he’s not home because he honestly has made me uncomfortable a few times with his accusations. Im a clean freak, I hate messes so I clean pretty frequently and he’s started acting weird about me cleaning and what I’m touching of his and getting upset at me over the smallest things. A few weeks ago I cleaned his desk off while he was at work because it was super dusty and there was just clutter all over it and empty drink cups etc so I cleaned it and organized everything while he was at work no big deal I thought he would appreciate it but he got upset at me for touching all his stuff and told me I’m “not to clean his desk again”. Whatever I never cleaned it again after that. Then other day I picked his wallet up because he’s constantly leaving it laying around and loses it so I pick it up and put it on the dresser where I ALWAYS put it. He then starts looking for it and asked if I’ve seen his wallet I said yeah I put it on the dresser and he went and checked his wallet like counted all his money and stuff to make sure I didn’t take any money out of it I said why are you counting your money I’d never steal from you and he said he just “wanted to make sure” ? I have NEVER took even a penny from him, even when I do all his laundry if I find even a single dollar bill or even quarters I give it to him idk why he would think I’d take money from his wallet. So now I’m uncomfortable to even move his wallet. A few days ago he was at work and I was at his house by myself again and his mom came over to drop some stuff off for him, I also deep cleaned the bathroom and he had a new toothbrush on the counter that was still in the package so after I cleaned the bathroom I opened his tooth brush and put it in the toothbrush holder by the sink, no big deal right ? Well he came home from work and saw the stuff his mom brought and asked where it came from, I told him his mom stopped by and I let her in to leave the stuff she got and he went OFF on me. Like scolded me as if I was a kid or something and asked “what else went on in HIS house while he wasn’t home” and how I have zero right to take it upon myself and let anyone in the house without his permission but it was his own mother like I didn’t see an issue she comes over all the time and has stopped by while he’s at work multiple times in the past so why was it suddenly an issue this one time ? I would understand if I just let a stranger in the house or someone he didn’t know but it was just his mom…? He was beyond pissed at me and I ended up crying because I was so embarrassed and went home. I’ve not went back over there since that happened last week. Then tonight he called me and asked where his tooth brush was I told him it was in the bathroom by the sink and he asked why I opened it and I told him I just opened it while I was cleaning the bathroom I didn’t think it was a big deal and he scoffed and said “well now I gotta buy another one because I don’t trust you. You probably did something to it so I’m not using it” like ???? What would I have done to his tooth brush and why ? I didn’t even know what to say. I’m just over stuff like that he acts like I’m just a thief or that I mess with all his stuff, I have never ever ever done anything like that to him so idk why he thinks all these things of me.
Should I just leave him at this point or try to figure out why he feels this way towards me? I love him but it’s honestly getting exhausting being with someone and constantly doing my best to prove myself and be good to him and he just doesn’t trust me and accuses me of stuff all the time.
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