My husband and I have been married 11 years together 20 yrs we are both in our early 30’s,

For the last 3 or so years I’ve feel like something had been wrong like he don’t show and affection to me at all like he don’t like holding my hand, cuddles, he don’t kiss me or even stand/sit by me really when we are out and about doing stuff and our sex life is 1-2 times a month if even and it’s only when he wants to have sex but he thing I should still give him oral sex often cuz he thing I owe him that at least cuz he works and I’m a SAHM/ house care taker. I have tried talking with him about it but seems he don’t care to listen or he just starts to b*tch at me saying he to tired to do anything and I dont understand how he feels and all I do is sit at home but yet yet laundry is don’t, house is cooked daily and dinner is made so when he gets home it’s all done and on top of all that I help his dad his doctor appointment, grocery shopping and medication call-in/pickup.