Idk what to do. Should I just make him stay home and miss the birth?

So my bf and I are having our 2nd child next week. We have a toddler who cannot come to the hospital it would just be too much to bring him so someone is going to have to watch him for a couple of days while we are in the hospital. My bf and I have went back and forth for weeks over who is going to watch our toddler because he simply will not allow anyone in MY family to do it and he’s being sooo picky making it all so complicated now that it’s down to the wire. My mother and my sisters have all told me they will gladly watch our toddler in a heartbeat but my bf says no and it’s all for such stupid reasons. My mom even offered to come stay at our house and watch our toddler while we were in the hospital that way our toddler didn’t have to have his schedule disrupted by going to someone else’s house and my bf still said absolutely not. He has honestly just been a bump in the road while trying to figure this all out and I’m getting beyond frustrated towards him because we’re down to just days left until we’re having the baby and still haven’t made ANY arrangements for our toddler. It’s completely fine for anyone in his family to be involved or help but the second I want my family involved in something or want them to help with something he gets pissed and says no. He doesn’t like my mom so he said shes not “allowed” to watch our toddler or stay in our house, he cannot stand my sister for whatever reason I have NO clue why and he also doesn’t like her bf so he said our toddler is absolutely not to stay with her or be at her house at all unsupervised, he asked everyone in his family and none of them are available to do it except his parents who are both active drug addicts. Tonight I asked him again if my sister or mom can please watch our toddler because we have to figure this out and my family is more than willing to help and he again flat out immediately said no because he doesn’t like them and said he would rather his parents watch him before anyone in my family because he “can’t stand” my family. I said that’s just fucking ridiculous and I am ABSOLUTELY not allowing his parents to baby sit either because they are both on drugs. If nobody in my family is allowed to watch him for the simple fact of my bf “not liking them” then his junkie parents damn sure ain’t gonna be allowed to watch him. That’s not fair. He is adamant that he wants someone in HIS family to watch our toddler but that’s just not gonna happen because again none of them can even do it so my family is really the only option but he flat out refuses to allow that. I told him if he’s gonna be this way and keep being ridiculous then he’s just gonna have to simply stay home with our toddler and miss the birth and I’ll have to go have the baby by myself because his parents are NOT going to be left alone with our toddler I don’t care. He can put his stupid feelings towards my family aside during this time and allow my sister or mom to baby sit or he can stay home. He got pissed off at me and said he’s not missing the birth then dropped the conversation. I just don’t know what to do I’m honestly getting so aggravated towards him that I would almost rather him not even come to the birth because of the way he’s acting. This is something big and important in BOTH of our lives I don’t understand what the issue is with my family being involved I want my family’s help/support during this time just as much as he wants his familys but he apparently doesn’t see it that way. Should I just make him stay home with our toddler since he wants to be this difficult?