How do you feel about your partner after baby?

Question

Did your feelings about your partner change after having a baby? If so, how and why?  I love my husband but I'm really struggling to like him due to feeling a lack of support from him. I'm currently 7 months postpartum

Answer

I hated my husband. When I say hated I mean I would imagine causing him physical pain 🥴 He, no doubt, through being unsupportive, insensitive, forgetful, and refusing to learn or even ask about anything going on with me, our child, etc. exacerbated my ppd. I could go on and on with the complaints of the absolute bullshit I have put up with the last 11 months, but, don’t get me wrong, it didn’t start when the baby was born. It didn’t even start when I got pregnant. That was my fault. I should’ve left way early on in our relationship. But let me tell you, I’m glad I didn’t. I’m not innocent in all of it either. It takes two. Should I have gotten a little more grace postpartum? In my opinion, absolutely. But I’m a sahm now with the best baby in the world. I get breaks when I need them, we go everywhere together, my husband and I get our time pretty much when we want (with adequate planning of course), and we’re pretty much happy. We both still have our complaints, I’m sure. But we’re so much better. The first year with a brand new baby, as a new mom, as a new dad, is the hardest. It’s so hard. I will not have any more kids bc of how postpartum is for me, but I’m so glad we all stuck it out. I’m so glad we’re all in the positions we’re in now.

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We had a silly vow that really escalated.. that was our turning point.. we couldn't continue the way we was..he was being an amazing dad but not being a good partner.. we sat down and spoke to each other about what we both had to do to change.. it wasn't easy but we got there.. it took alot of communication to be where we are now.. we have our second baby now and we couldn't be more different than our first.. we are so much closer and can't keep our hands off each other.

Answer

It normal to fall out of love or have changed feelings of your spouse after having a child. Especially when they are not helping. Have you told your spouse how you feel? If you have and he still hasn’t changed it maybe it is time to look at your options. Maybe go to therapy, or maybe divorce. Either way your child deserves to see you and your spouse happy no matter which way you decide.

How do you feel about your partner after baby?

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