Is taking the car for two weeks to harsh?

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My daughter hasn't even had her license two months and she's already gotten a ticket. It's not the ticket I'm pissed at. It's how she got it. She and her friend were outside the car talking and a cop was already there. They sometimes have them outside Walmart. They just wanted the subway inside the Walmart. My daughter was parked in handicap and the cop asked if she had a handicap parking tag and she said no and he said "Okay you gotta move." My daughter has issues with authority. If you tell her to do something she's not gonna do it. Her friend actually snitched on her to me because she was so embarrassed because my daughter told this cop. "No. I don't think I'm gonna do that." He asked why and her answer was "Because it's America." It got to the point of arguing where he wrote her a ticket and she said she's still not moving so he threatened to arrest her and tow her car. Then she left. She's blocked her friend for snitching on the hole situation because I wouldn't have known she even got the ticket. I want to ground her from driving. But she does have a job. Before she could drive she would take the bus to her job because students can ride the bus for free with a student I.D. She would have a way to work because she bussed for a year but I'm wondering if I should punish her a different way

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That behavior is disgusting. She’d be taking the bus until she can buy her own car and pay her own insurance. She isn’t owed access to a vehicle. It’s a privilege and she clearly hasn’t earned it. Hope your kid turns out better at some point.

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Oh no, oh heck no, oh absolutely not if that was my child their driving privilege would be taken away indefinitely until they proved themselves to be responsible enough to handle it.
This behavior is entitled, it's nasty, it is unacceptable. Parking in a handicap spot ALONE is enough of a reason to take away the car. Mouthing off to a police officer? Nah, give me your license. Revoked.

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I’d take the car and make her write the officer an apology note or volunteer at the police station. She sounds really entitled and needs to respect the laws even in America.

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Take the car. She's not mature enough to have one. Sounds like she needs to sign up for a lot of volunteer hours at various places.

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She can take the bus. She doesn’t have a legal right to park anywhere she wants. Those handicap spots are for people with handicap tags. I would take the car until she understands that she had to abide by the law.

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At that point she'd have to buy her own car if she was my daughter. Having a vehicle isn't a right, it's a privilege.

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Not harsh at all. Let her take the bus. Her blocking her friend shows she still doesn't understand the severity of what she's done. She needs to learn to respect authority now.

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Let her take the bus! Kids need to face consequences. Hopefully taking the car will make her appreciate having one.

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No, not too harsh at all. She obviously took that spot on purpose trying to look “cool” with her friend. Then talking back to a cop about it, that’s so bad. And she’s using your car to do all this in… she def doesn’t deserve the luxury of a car right now

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Disgusting behavior. I’d be so embarrassed. My 4 year old is disabled and in a wheelchair. We rely on those spots to get into places safely.

Is taking the car for two weeks to harsh?

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