Controlling boyfriend

Does your boyfriend control who you talk to?

As in jealous of “guy friends” reading my messages when I fall asleep. Tells me I’m not allowed to buy weed from my friend and just trying to control who I am allowed to talk to.

It’s making me not want to be in a relationship anymore. I’ve been with him for 11 years and just can’t do the controlling, possessive shit anymore.

I want to be FREE BE MY OWN PERSON FOR ONCE. He cheated on my 3 years ago and thinks he has a say so in who I buy weed from…..

When I stop talking to him and ignoring him or pulling away he shows up at my house and it almost feels as if he’s forcing me to be with him. Even when he knows deep down I don’t want to be with him anymore…..