Hi all, I'm looking out for advice because I don't know how to go about this. A little over two months ago our 6 year old cat was suddenly struck by a vehicle. He was not meant to be an outdoor cat. It was a punch to the gut and worse when we lost him. It's been getting better...I still do miss him so much but I know I cannot have him here in physical form. I'm looking to adopt because I know we have love and a home to give.

I do have a 16 and 19(almost 20 year old) son and daughter and if I bring it up it, they seem to shut it out. I do understand they miss him. We had a stray in our yard about a month after and my daughter was trying to get him in, to keep him. When I mentioned adoption she said when she moves out she plans on getting an all black cat. (This is one of the reasons I'm having a hard time understanding)

My cat was everything to me. He was there when it was me by myself (being a single parent) years ago. He was given to me as a kitten from my best friend who passed away only a year after I took him in.

I really want to adopt a homeless cat. I have tried to just hint to them that it's not replacing him, it's developing a new relationship.

I don't know what to do and feel selfish if I just do this on my own.

I do not get out much. I just work and take care of teens and a house. Please be kind. Advice appreciated.

Edit** I did slowly bring up to my daughter that I went to an adoption clinic and was absolutely told I'm being selfish and that we're not ready for that. I feel completely awful and disrespected. I'm not sure how to move forward. Thank you everyone for your advice.

Second Edit*** I continued to look for adoptions and found a female cat who needs a home. I told my son(16) that I had planned on a meet with her, if that was okay with him and he could come with me if he'd like. He said yes mom thats fine, I'm not sure of my plans because (two friends have birthdays that weekend) but I'm okay with that. My daughter (20) I have not mentioned much to.(for various reasons)

I have a meet set up for a week and a half from now. Thank you again everyone 🙏🐈🩷