My current fiancé has a very rough past, she was trafficked as a child/teen and was addicted to drugs. I had a rough past being a dumb and uninformed teen having sex with every guy I met online and most of the time not consenting, feeling very coerced. My fiancé becomes triggered due to certain topics about men. I sometimes call her daddy during sex, this is something I expressed to her that I’ve done before with other men, sometimes willingly sometimes unwillingly but she said she liked to be called that so I happily obliged because I felt comfortable with her. So we’ve been doing that for about 6 months. Recently I asked if she liked being called anything else during sex and she said either mommy or daddy is fine. I expressed to her that maybe we should try mommy because daddy comes back as a trigger for me sometimes since I’ve called men that before unwillingly or have been forced. She moved away from me and asked me “you’ve called other people that before and you call me that now” I said yes we’ve talked about this before. I could tell she was triggered so I tried to reassure her that what she’s feeling is valid and I didn’t mean to cause any emotional turmoil. She continued to space out as I was talking but then the first things that come out of her mouth is “you’ve had sex with so many other men and you’ve called them daddy just like me, you say you like women mainly but you have been with mostly men, how am I supposed to take that” I was offended and felt hurt as she was questioning my experiences. We go on through the night and eventually make up, the next day I still feel hurt and wounded from what was said and i voiced that to her, in response she says “a lot of the men you’ve been with were consensual and you’ve consensually called them daddy, how do you think

It makes me feel?” Then she brought up my sexuality “how do you think it makes me feel knowing your questioning if your a lesbian or now” I identify as pansexual and I’ve always been open and honest with my known attraction for women but with men it’s changed. I was enraged at this point, am I wrong for feeling like that. What do I do? How do I go about this?