Situationship took a weird turn?

Backstory- I met this guy this summer, let’s call him Jon while in was in a terrible relationship. I fell for him as soon as I met him and still feel in love with him to this day. As much as I want to deny this, I think he could potentially be a fuckboy. He’s extremely handsome and charming but is almost 40 and says he’s ready to settle down. So I cheated I know it was wrong and have grown so much since then. The relationship with my ex was toxic and abusive and I should have left years ago. Please don’t judge. Anyway, I cut contact with Jon and told my ex about him out of guilt. We tried to work it out and months have gone by… me and my ex broke up and I’ve recently reconnected with Jon. He dated a girl since our “fling” now and we both recently have gotten out of relationships… At first we were hooking up he says he wants to be friends because he’s not ready to commit to someone yet after a fresh break up, but then he calls me text me we hang out and he is there for me when I need him. He does disappear some nights and won’t text or call, I know he’s out with friends but I try not to read too much into it because we are not in a relationship. This has been going on a few weeks but suddenly the sex has stopped. He still talks to me helped me with an errand and took me to the airport today. I spend the night we cuddle… no sex. Talks about us being together like he wants that…but says sex clouds his judgment and makes his feelings for me develop deeper and he’s not ready for that. A lot of me feels like this guy is just messing with me but don’t guys usually take advantage of women only for sex? The fact that the sex stopped but the “friendship” and relationship tendencies/talks stays…Do you think he’s being honest about not wanting to have sex because of the emotional ties or is he playing me and seeing other women? I am so confused which is a red flag in itself.

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