How does my boyfriend have the time to cheat on me?

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I don't understand. He is autistic and I know he is cheating on me because I saw him texting other woman. How would a woman even want an autistic man. I am autistic as well and sometimes I don't have luck on hook ups because guys think I am weird and they think something is wrong with me and all I am is ghosted. Help me please. How does anyone even want him? I broke up with him when this happened. We were together when this happened. I am disturbed by this.

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Im disturbed by the amount of times autism is brought up in that little paragraph.

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I'm probably gonna sound mean here but maybe you need to hear it. If you are currently on hook up apps while dating you are no better. Him being on a neurodivergent spectrum doesnt have any bearing on his potential for love. Known plenty of autistic or other neurodivergent people with significant others, married, kids etc. You keep asking why then nobody wants you and keep blaming autism. Sorry to phrase it this harshly butbit isnt your autism...it is your personality. If you are even remotely like you are on this app in actual life you sound like a very hard person to like. Stop blaming your autism, find a therapist and work on you and be a less annoying and more pleasant person. Just like non autistic peoplw can be off putting and unpleasant so can autistic people...it isnt a neruro thing or not. If you're human you can be unlikable. Fix that and go from there. Like many have suggested after tour many post...find a good therapist and work on you.

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Just because he’s texting another woman doesn’t mean he’s cheating. He can text whomever he wants. She might be a friend. Many people date others who have Autism. Autism comes in different forms and not everyone is the same. Your personality is terrible. At this point it’s not because you have Autism; it is your personality that people aren’t attracted to. You have issues that only therapy/counseling can help at this point.

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Christina … you need some time to yourself. You’ve been overly obsessed with men and sex and dating the last few months and things haven’t worked out. You need a break for your own mental health at this point.

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It sounds like you are projecting your own fears of not being wanted due to having autism onto your boyfriend. It sounds like you don't think anyone will ever want you and so you also think no one would ever want him. And you're quite surprised that someone actually does. That's because believing that no one will ever want you because you have autism is not a true thought. There is someone for everyone out there. It sucks to get cheated on. I'm sorry that happened to you. I know that hurts. He should have been honest with you. But don't ever think that no one will ever want to be with a person because of autism. Everyone is worthy of love and connection. ￼￼￼

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Please get a therapist and be honest with them. The amount of posts you put accusing this poor man are disturbing. I really think you need to learn to love yourself, your autism and stop being so judgmental towards others.

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This post is disturbing. It sounds like you were only with him because you thought no one would want him. Autistic people are worthy of love just like everyone else. I suggest you stop dating for a while and find a neuro-affirming therapist. I’m sorry you’ve been taught autistic people don’t deserve love and happiness, but it seems like you are also perpetuating this falsehood.

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Christina you need to stop this!

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A woman will take whatever will have her, when she’s desperate enough. A man in jail, got 10 baby mamas. No job. Sells or does drugs. In and out of rehab. History of cheating and abuse, sex offender etc. unfortunately a lot of women will take whatever, rather than be alone. A guy makes her laugh or makes her feel good about herself, attention or affection etc seems to wash away all the baggage he comes with. I deal with divorce and custody a lot. If a man wants to cheat he will figure it out. Saving women’s names as men’s names or an initial or not at all so he can say idk who that is probably spam or wrong number. While his Coworkers, his friends to cover for him. Got one wife that she tracks his locations, the car and cameras at the house. He still cheats. He leaves his phone at his desk at work and goes in her car. Pays cash so she  can’t track bank accounts. If a man wants to cheat he will figure it out. In the parking lot or supply closet at work. Oh I’m at the bar with so and so, so they cover for him. Gotta work late etc. and if you takes him back after he cheats they just get sneakier and respect goes out the window and abuse, neglect etc. because he knows you don’t want to be alone and can get away with murder and do as he pleases. I have truck drivers that have a wife and 5 kids in one state and another woman and kids in another. Man who lives with both his girlfriend and the other woman downstairs. Woman who slept with her sister’s man and had a kid by him. And not the first sister she did it to. Nothing shocks me.

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Honestly I don’t think this guy was actually your boyfriend.You’ve posted several times in the last week or two about how you keep getting ghosted and blocked, and that you can’t find someone.

How does my boyfriend have the time to cheat on me?

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