I met this guy and I have a feeling he’s gone off of me but I’ve kinda caught feelings what should I do?

Hi everyone,

Just a quick background story, I met this guy at the club, we started talking and then we started dancing up on each other, as people do at the clubs 🫣, I’ve always been very hesitant about meeting/ talking to people in clubs because of stranger danger but there was something about this guy that I didn’t get a feeling of I should probably leave or ask my friends to take me out of the situation. At the end of the night, we exchanged Snapchat and started talking.

We were talking for about a week and a bit before we met. The whole time we were talking he had quick or quick-ish replies or we would take turns starting a conversation. ( we only messaged each other when we had something to speak about) he would never message me asking about my day just like I would never message him) maybe a couple of times but nothing consistent.

When we met up we spoke for a little bit and then we had sex. The sex was good, the whole time he was very respectful if I asked him to change positions or to slow down he would which made me feel very comfortable. After we met up for the first time he kinda stopped talking to me as much. So I went out on a girl's night and a drunk voice noted him asking if I did something because he stopped talking to me as much. He said that he had a busy week and I didn’t do anything.

Fast forward a few weeks and we’ve been meeting up about every week now. His communication has been off and on. But I know he was sick for a week, then he had some car troubles and he was also getting his house renovated. So I understand that he couldn’t always be on his phone talking to me.

Fast forward to the present day ish and his communication has gone almost downhill. Because we only speak on Snapchat we will send each other random pictures of us without the day. And sometimes if he takes a while to reply I’ll go look at his snap score to see if he’s been on his phone or if he is snapping someone else when we first started talking his snap score only went up before or after he replied to me. I would never be waiting for a reply and see his snap score go up. But recently that’s changed. Which is the reason why I think he’s “getting bored of me”

But my problem is I have caught feelings for him now and it’s annoying me because he wanted me first, he approached me first, he spoke to me first, and he messaged me first.

Also a while ago it felt like I was the only one putting in effort so I made the decision to not put in as much effort as I was but of course that night he started messaging me again( nothing sexual we were just speaking).

I also have this feeling that he’s seeing another girl. And I could be wrong but most of the time whenever I have a feeling about someone or something I’m right. We never became exclusive but we had the conversation “ of what is this situation” and he said that we were seeing each other which was fine my me. But I also don’t want to be the girl he comes to when his other girl doesn’t answer. Not that there’s anything wrong with that, it’s just that I know I will get hurt in that situation and I don’t want to be someone’s backup in case his first choice doesn’t answer or can’t see him that night.

I need someone's help please because I don’t know what I should do

Should I ask him if he seeing another girl ( by seeing I mean sleeping with another girl) or should I just call this off with no proof but my imagination 😭. Or if there is something you guys think I should do instead please let me know.

Also looking back meeting up with a stranger 100% wasn’t my smartest moment but I chose where to meet up so I chose somewhere that I knew really well, that I could get out of quickly, and that had multiple exits. I also made sure my friends had my location.